When it comes to matters of the heart in relationships, sometimes people get it all wrong. And that's okay because it's how we learn, right? A lesson bought is a lesson taught.
But, the narrative hits a little different when you add children to the mix. Taking your love hits out on the kids is not only the wrong way to handle your break up, it's hurtful, harmful and heart-piercing to the child. It makes the child thinks they have to choose a side..choose one parent to love over the other. And that, is wrong on so many levels.
It's the first spark that leads to the emotional fire that the child will have to endure their entire life. It can evoke mommy issues, daddy hate or life-long feelings of abandonment within the child. They hear mommy attacking the integrity of daddy and experience daddy distancing himself from the child because he can't deal with mommy's stunts. Typical baby momma/baby daddy drama.
Not too long ago on social media, a mother was upset with her baby-daddy because he gave their daughter a beauty day experience and got her hair braided. To prove her anger, the mother humiliated the child by cutting her hair off on the sidewalk of her apartments. The year before, the mother smashed her birthday cake in front of the child because the daddy bought it.
This time, singer, Lyfe Jennings, ranted on social media because actress, Eva Marcille, changed the last name of her daughter to the surname of her new husband, a man who is not the child's father. According to an article in rolling out, Lyfe was outraged.
“I think this is so wack. Changing ya daughter’s last name from her father’s to someone else’s. Especially when the father tries to see her,” he said, according to The Shade Room’s Instagram page. “The daughter don’t have anything to do with their beef. And what kind of man allows this????? S— pissed me off. I expected better out of Eva. S— personal to me. I’ve been there.”
The same article said rapper/actor Lil Scrappy put in his two cents as well.
“Yeah that’s wack af if the dad wants to b in her life I understand moving on but changing ya kid name is like writing her history over and her not knowing where she comes from , she’s black and needs to get it together.”
Well, there always has to be one somebody who flows the opposite of the stream. rolling out noted that an Instagram user had a different feel than Lyfe and Lil Scrappy. He said, “It got changed to the name putting in the most work.”
Is that the way things work? Erase a child's past because another person is "doing?"
But, the narrative hits a little different when you add children to the mix. Taking your love hits out on the kids is not only the wrong way to handle your break up, it's hurtful, harmful and heart-piercing to the child. It makes the child thinks they have to choose a side..choose one parent to love over the other. And that, is wrong on so many levels.
It's the first spark that leads to the emotional fire that the child will have to endure their entire life. It can evoke mommy issues, daddy hate or life-long feelings of abandonment within the child. They hear mommy attacking the integrity of daddy and experience daddy distancing himself from the child because he can't deal with mommy's stunts. Typical baby momma/baby daddy drama.
Not too long ago on social media, a mother was upset with her baby-daddy because he gave their daughter a beauty day experience and got her hair braided. To prove her anger, the mother humiliated the child by cutting her hair off on the sidewalk of her apartments. The year before, the mother smashed her birthday cake in front of the child because the daddy bought it.
This time, singer, Lyfe Jennings, ranted on social media because actress, Eva Marcille, changed the last name of her daughter to the surname of her new husband, a man who is not the child's father. According to an article in rolling out, Lyfe was outraged.
“I think this is so wack. Changing ya daughter’s last name from her father’s to someone else’s. Especially when the father tries to see her,” he said, according to The Shade Room’s Instagram page. “The daughter don’t have anything to do with their beef. And what kind of man allows this????? S— pissed me off. I expected better out of Eva. S— personal to me. I’ve been there.”
The same article said rapper/actor Lil Scrappy put in his two cents as well.
“Yeah that’s wack af if the dad wants to b in her life I understand moving on but changing ya kid name is like writing her history over and her not knowing where she comes from , she’s black and needs to get it together.”
Well, there always has to be one somebody who flows the opposite of the stream. rolling out noted that an Instagram user had a different feel than Lyfe and Lil Scrappy. He said, “It got changed to the name putting in the most work.”
Is that the way things work? Erase a child's past because another person is "doing?"
Instructions: Read the commentary above. Once you've assessed the situation from many sides, respond to the following: "Should custodial parents change the last name of their child(ren) to their new partner's last name when they marry?"
1. INCLUDE: First initial AND last name AND class period.
2. Your reply must be written in complete sentences.
3. You MUST comment on at least TWO other posts from any student.
4. Make sure you reply with fidelity. Provide details about what you think.
5. No identical comments on different posts (i.e., "I agree" or "I disagree" or "I like your story."). Such comments will earn you a zero.
6. To post your reply, click on the word "Comment" in the top right hand corner or bottom left hand corner.
CAUTION!! Do NOT embarrass me, yourself, your class, the English department, the school, your family or your upbringing with tasteless, meaningless comments. This is for a grade.
DISCLAIMER: If you do not respond AND comment on TWO others, you will not receive credit for this assignment. It's all or nothing.
WARNING: If you post even one second past midnight, your comment might appear to be posted, but as soon as it is opened to be graded, it will automatically delete.
Due Friday, March 6, 2020 11:59 p.m. CST
If you would like to submit a topic for discussion, submit it here.
1. INCLUDE: First initial AND last name AND class period.
2. Your reply must be written in complete sentences.
3. You MUST comment on at least TWO other posts from any student.
4. Make sure you reply with fidelity. Provide details about what you think.
5. No identical comments on different posts (i.e., "I agree" or "I disagree" or "I like your story."). Such comments will earn you a zero.
6. To post your reply, click on the word "Comment" in the top right hand corner or bottom left hand corner.
CAUTION!! Do NOT embarrass me, yourself, your class, the English department, the school, your family or your upbringing with tasteless, meaningless comments. This is for a grade.
DISCLAIMER: If you do not respond AND comment on TWO others, you will not receive credit for this assignment. It's all or nothing.
WARNING: If you post even one second past midnight, your comment might appear to be posted, but as soon as it is opened to be graded, it will automatically delete.
Due Friday, March 6, 2020 11:59 p.m. CST
If you would like to submit a topic for discussion, submit it here.
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