Love, Lies, and Lost

3/4/2025

Candace is a high school senior. Her life was going great. Then, she met Raul. They started dating. They got serious. Too serious for her parents' liking. Before Raul, Candace had decided to go to college. She knew her major, what school she wanted to attend, and every day, she applied for five scholarships a day. By the time she met Raul, she had acumulated $100,000 in scholarship money.

Soon though, Raul started demanding more of her time and she got off track. They started spending too much time at each others' homes and going out. Eventually, Candace stopped applying for scholarships altogether and started missing scholarship deadlines. Her grades, once all 90s, started slipping.

Her parents noticed the shift—missed curfews, unfinished assignments, and a growing distance between them and their daughter. They warned her about Raul, about how love shouldn’t make her lose herself, but Candace didn’t want to hear it. She was in love. But, the more she accommodated Raul, the more obsessive he became. When her parents gave her an ultimatim, Raul wasn’t happy about it and started questioning her commitment, making her feel guilty for wanting more than just him.

Candace was faced with a dilemma: fight to reclaim the life she planned for herself or risk losing it all for a relationship that may not last.

One day, when Raul was at her house, he fell asleep in Candace's room. Candace's mom sent her to the store. While she was gone, Candace's mom went through Raul's phone. She discovered he was cheating and sharing intimate photos with another girl at their school who was in one of Candace's classes. She told Candace, who was devastated.

Let's Write! Explain whether mom was wrong for going through Raul's phone and saving her daughter an extended amount of hurt, pain, and embarrassment.

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younger, k 1A

3/4/2025 10:13:54 am

Candace's mom's actions were a breach of privacy, which is wrong no matter the circumstance. Going through Raul's phone without his permission was not right and invasive. While her intentions may have been to protect her daughter, invading someone's privacy is stepping outside of your boundary and undermining trust. Candace needed to learn to navigate her relationship and make decisions independently, rather than having her privacy violated by her mom.

Nathan T

3/4/2025 12:26:49 pm

I agree with Candace's mom's actions not being the correct ones. She did with a good intention but it was not right.

Espinosa m 3a

3/4/2025 02:09:13 pm

manipulative, and Candace’s mom did what she had to do to open her daughter’s eyes. It wasn’t about being nosy—it was about love and protection.

Colocho J 6B

3/5/2025 08:47:03 am

Invade of privacy is disrespectful to me because they should not be thinking anything and should sometimes give them some time of their own to be honest.

Knowles K 1A

3/7/2025 09:03:01 pm

While yes it is a breach of privacy at the end of the day she just wants whats best for her daughter and for her to succeed

Luster J, 3A

3/6/2025 01:38:58 pm

While yes it was a breach of privacy some things are worth the risk. When someone is in a abusive relationship they can't see the wrongs until it's too late. Going through someone's phone is such a little price to pay for the safety and integrity of someone's future.

Presas A 6B

3/7/2025 07:17:08 pm

Privacy is definitely an important value in any relationship that trust and personal boundaries matter and Candace's mo's action may could have been overstepping, but when a parent notices something and concerning changes in their own child'e behavior their first instinct is to often intervene out of love and protection towards their children while it;s important for Candace to learn negative relationships on her own and to be able to see the signs.

Colocho J 6B

3/4/2025 11:48:51 am

I guess the mom reactions were ethically and justifiable given what the argument of justification was considering. The situation tells us that between respecting and individuals' privacy and protection is within family contexts.

Nathan T

3/4/2025 12:29:00 pm

I wouldn't say that her actions were justifiable since she did go through his phone without him even being aware.

Alarcon A 3A

3/4/2025 12:43:15 pm

I agree the moms actions were justifiable but its still wrong invading someones privacy the best she could have done is convince her daughter to leave him.

Sanchez A 3A

3/4/2025 01:29:32 pm

I agree the mother demonstrates how she treats other peoples privacy and property. Her actions were justifiable but to a certain extent and could've been handled better.

smith shaniah 1A

3/5/2025 05:20:10 pm

while it might have been ethical her mom still crossed boundaries instead of letting her daughter live and learn from her choices I feel like the mom could have when a different way about the situation

Esquivel. E 1A

3/6/2025 08:49:18 am

I do agree that the mother had pure intentions for her daughter but it doesn't give her the right to violate someone else's privacy, family or not.

Malvaez M 1A

3/7/2025 01:30:27 pm

Although the invasion of privacy was wrong in Candice's moms doing, it was justifiable because any mother would want the best for her child.

Knowles K 1A

3/7/2025 09:05:34 pm

Completely agree while it was wrong for the mom to go through his phone she just wants her daughter happy and for her to succeed as any mother would

Nathan T 3A

3/4/2025 12:25:28 pm

I believe that the mom was wrong for going through Rauls phone although she saved Candance from ruining her future there could have been other possible solutions to getting Candance take the right path.

Alarcon A 3A

3/4/2025 01:19:30 pm

I agree what she did wasn't exactly the right thing and she could have approached the situation differently such as convincing her daughter to leave him. Although her way of doing things worked it just wasn't the right way.

Divine Ojeh 3A

3/5/2025 11:05:23 am

I agree, she was wrong invading Rauls privacy but, in the long run it saved Candace from her future.

Fuentez M 3A

3/5/2025 08:29:39 pm

I agree and disagree with what you have to say . Yes i agree her mom was in the wrong because she over stepped boundaries with her daughters boyfrined, but she also protected her daughter from losing a bright future.

Esquivel. E 1A

3/6/2025 08:47:03 am

Yes, she shouldn't have had result to violating someone's privacy.

Luster J, 3A

3/6/2025 01:39:45 pm

Yes this is exactly what I think. She did what she had to do.

Victorino H 8B

3/7/2025 02:39:23 pm

I agree she could've definitely solved this issue in a different way but I think she was just desperate because Candice wasn't thinking clearly about how it was affecting her future.

Ruiz M 8B

3/7/2025 03:14:51 pm

I do agree that there were better ways to handle the problem, but with the situation constantly worsening, slipping grades and missed opportunities, action was necessary. While the solution was not ideal, it still allowed Candance's mom to protect her from a greater amount of pain.

Curlee A, 4A

3/7/2025 06:46:35 pm

A line in the sand had to be drawn. While yes, it is wrong to snoop through peoples belongings, it's also wrong to cheat on your partner. The only difference between the two is moms snooping is justifiable.

Alarcon A 3A

3/4/2025 12:41:06 pm

Going through someones phone is an invasion of privacy but there are some exceptions I think she did the right thing because she saved her daughter in the long run because if she continued to stay it would have been a toxic relationship. But it's a good thing that she saved her daughters future into hopefully becoming someone successful.

Sanchez A 3A

3/4/2025 01:42:53 pm

I agree she did save her daughter from it becoming something bigger than it already is. The toxic relationship would've been more and more toxic.

Divine Ojeh 3A

3/5/2025 11:04:24 am

I agree, if she would have not save her from the relationship it would have been terrible.

smith shaniah 1A

3/5/2025 05:17:46 pm

I agree I think she shouldve let Candace find out on her own so she could have the chance to come back to reality and realize that's she need to focus on school than being in a toxic relationship

Fuentez M 3A

3/5/2025 08:27:19 pm

I agree with what you said, the mother all she wanted to do is protect and save her daughter from a relationship that wasnt going to last anytime soon. She saved and woke her daughter up from a trance she was in by her boyfriend. Although her mother crossed boundaries and was in the wrong for that she was also in the right for protecting her daughter

younger, k 1A

3/6/2025 08:40:31 am

I don't agree I don't feel like it would of necessarily made her a less successful I feel it would've just been a life lesson.

Sanchez A 3A

3/4/2025 01:18:45 pm

The mother shouldn't' have gone through the bf's phone because he is not her son. If it was her son then yes she can go through his phone as much as she wants. Although she did find something bad that could hurt her daughter she could've handled it a better way, its not her relationship.

Espinosa m 3a

3/4/2025 02:08:50 pm

I agree because Candace’s mom was only trying to protect her. If she hadn’t looked at Raul’s phone, Candace might have continued sacrificing her future for someone who didn’t truly care about her. It was better for her to find out the truth sooner rather than later.

Mijangos A, 4A

3/7/2025 07:52:16 pm

I agree with this very well, if her mom were to not go through his phone, Raul would most likely continue to let Candance fall behind and spin into a horrible mess in her life

Colocho J 6B

3/5/2025 08:45:51 am

It would be a good idea to be able to have trust, but also keeping an eye for their protection is better for each other.

Teniente J. 1A

3/6/2025 10:29:13 am

I agree that the daughter could've figured it out and talked it out with Raul without invading his privacy, but you cannot beat a mother instinct to protect her daughter even though it was invading someone rights among a person.

Victorino H 8B

3/7/2025 02:38:09 pm

I don't agree with you, while yes it's someone's privacy and its wrong to invade it at the end of the day shes still a mom who has to protect her kid and in the end she saved her daughter from a potentially toxic relationship..

Ruiz M 8B

3/7/2025 03:21:32 pm

I don't fully agree, while it's not her relationship and it was wrong of her to invade Raul's privacy, she was acting out of concern for her daughter. Although there were better ways to handle the problem, she needed to intervene quickly before Candance ended up too far in a path that she would later regret.

Espinosa m 3a

3/4/2025 02:08:28 pm

Candace’s mom was not wrong for going through Raul’s phone in this situation. While privacy is important, parents have a responsibility to protect their children from harm, especially when they see concerning behavior. Candace had already begun to neglect her goals and education due to her relationship with Raul, and her mother likely suspected something was wrong. By checking his phone, she uncovered Raul’s dishonesty and saved her daughter from further emotional distress. While it may have been an invasion of privacy, the greater good was protecting Candace from a toxic and unfaithful relationship.

younger, k 1A

3/6/2025 08:44:41 am

I don't agree she could had done that multiple different ways then going through somebody else that's not even her son.

Malvaez M 1A

3/7/2025 01:32:23 pm

Candice's moms invasion of privacy was wrong, saving her daughter upcoming future from a toxic and unhealthy relationship was the right choice even though she invaded her boyfriends privacy.

Presas A 6B

3/7/2025 07:10:07 pm

The parents have a responsibility to look out for their children's well being especially when they notice troubling changes in behavior.In this case, Candace's mom may have felt that checking Raul's phone was necessary because she had a feeling in her gut that she noticed something was wrong and she did so to protect her daughter from harm.

Gonzalez S 4A link

3/7/2025 09:23:27 pm

I completely agree with your statement, it was for the greater good although there was trust broken. Candace's mom knew what had caused her daughter to change and she fixed it for the better.

Garcia M 3A

3/5/2025 08:58:59 am

It’s understandable why Candace’s mom went through Raul’s phone, she was trying to protect her daughter from a relationship that was affecting her future. Candace’s grades were slipping, she was missing scholarship deadlines, and her family was worried. Her mom likely felt she had to step in before things got worse. However, going through Raul’s phone was still an invasion of privacy, and it could have made Candace feel betrayed or undermined. At her age, Candace should have been figuring things out herself, even if it was tough. In the end, Candace’s mom acted out of love and concern, but it’s a tricky situation. Ideally, a conversation might have been better, but her mom’s decision spared Candace from more heartache, even if it caused some tension.

Bronson M, 3A

3/6/2025 10:26:00 am

I agree, Candace's mom is understandable for going through Rauls phone because shes concerned about Candace. The mom was still wrong for going through Rauls business. Candace should've found out about Raul cheating on her own. Candace should've also balanced school and Raul.

Gonzalez D. 1A

3/7/2025 09:01:59 am

Yes, I completely agree. Raul was doing no good for Candace.

Gomez D 1A

3/7/2025 09:47:39 am

I see your point yes it might have been wrong that candaces mom went through Raul's phone but she did save her from a guy that was cheating on her and wasn't really benefiting her and he was for sure just holding her back from her full potential

Divine Ojeh 3A

3/5/2025 11:03:20 am

Candace mom wasn't wrong for going through Raul's phone. Even though it was a privacy invasion, she was trying to protect Candance from getting hurt. Candace was losing focus on her goals and getting too caught up in a bad relationship. When her mom found out Raul was cheating she saved Candace from a lot of pain and embarrassment.

Kendell Hurrington 4A

3/6/2025 11:15:20 am

This is very true. Candace was losing focus and allowing all of her hard for to fall to the side. had her boyfriend been a positive force, things would have gone differently, but he wasn't.

williams J 6B

3/5/2025 11:49:42 am

i agree because While her intentions may have been to protect her daughter, invading someone's privacy is stepping outside of your boundary and undermining trust. Candace needed to learn to navigate her relationship and make decisions independently, rather than having her privacy violated by her mom and it could have made Candace feel betrayed or undermined. At her age, Candace should have been figuring things out herself, even if it was tough. In the end, Candace’s mom acted out of love and concern, but it’s a tricky situation. Ideally, a conversation might have been better, but her mom’s decision spared Candace from more heartache, even if it caused some tension

smith shaniah 1A

3/5/2025 05:15:26 pm

I feel like the mom was wrong even tho that's her daughter and she cares for she has to let her daughter live and learn from the things shes faces in life. Even tho the boyfriend is in the wrong to because if he really loved he he would allow her to be successful in school and make it as far as possible by sticking by her side and holding her down

Bronson M, 3A

3/6/2025 10:22:38 am

I agree, Candance's mom was wrong for looking through Rauls phone without him knowing. The mom has to let her daughter live and find life out on her own. The boyfriend is wrong for doing Candance that way but the mom was right about their toxic relationship. Cadence should've put a balance between school and Raul.

Teniente J. 1A

3/6/2025 10:27:44 am

True, the mom won't be there for her to protect her from relationships or any type of dangerous situation. The daughter has to live with her decision as to be with Raul even though he is cheating which she will figure out.

Fuentez M 3A

3/5/2025 08:25:10 pm

Although her mother had good intentions in getting her daughter back and not having her feel much more pain and losing her academic record . Her mom did cross boundaries with going through Rauls phone. If the situation was backwards and the daughter went through her moms bf phone , her mom wouldnt like that because that crosses the boundaries. Her mom had a right heart and a right mind, but she shouldnt have went through Rauls phone at night while they are sleeping at her house. Invading someone else's privacy is never okay. That's their business if Candance went through his phone now that's different . Her mom did just want to proctect her daughter which is an amazing thing any parent could do, but the mother crossed boundaries with checking someones phone who is not their child.

Kendell Hurrington 4A

3/6/2025 11:14:06 am

Although I hear what your saying, I simply cant agree. You acknowledge that if the daughter went through the phone, then it would be different, and although your stance holds truth, the fact of the matter is that the mother is an adult and has more wisdom compared to the as teens. Her getting involved in her child's emotional well being and relationship while having a valid reasoning is the most appropriate coarse of action.

Johnson C 8B

3/7/2025 08:44:12 am

Her getting involved in her child's emotional well being and relationship while having a valid reasoning is the most appropriate coarse of action.

Smith R 8B

3/7/2025 02:33:07 pm

Although what her mother did was not okay, she did it in the best interest of her daughter. Candace's future was in jeopardy and I think her mother was just trying to do anything possible to save her from making the same mistakes.

Esquivel. E 1A

3/6/2025 08:44:57 am

Candice's mother was in the wrong. Raul's privacy was violated whether he was in the wrong or not. While Candice's mom was trying to protect her daughter, Candice needs to make her own decisions especially when navigating romantic relationships.

Tomas Ruiz 6b

3/7/2025 06:02:13 pm

while yes, the actions of the mother were wrong by violating Raul's privacy. I say pretty justified.

Dralyn Stephens ,4A

3/6/2025 09:37:56 am

Candace’s mom was not wrong for going through Raul’s phone, given the circumstances. While snooping through someone’s personal device is generally an invasion of privacy, this situation was about more than just curiosity—it was about protecting her daughter from a toxic, manipulative relationship.

Bronson M, 3A

3/6/2025 10:18:01 am

Candace's mom was wrong for going through Raul's phone because it's a invasion of privacy. Candace made the choice to stay with him so she should've been able to figure out on her own Raul was cheating. Raul was toxic, mom was right. Candace's mom was wrong for going through Raul's phone without letting anyone know it was disrespect to Raul and Cadance.

Thompson D 8B

3/7/2025 08:43:13 am

I agree. Candace’s mom had good intentions, but going through Raul’s phone was still an invasion of privacy. Candace needed to realize on her own that Raul was toxic. While her mom was right about him, her actions were disrespectful and could have been handled differently.

Teniente J. 1A

3/6/2025 10:25:56 am

Candace mom invading someone privacy is a bad call to do when going through Raul phone without permission just because she has a gut feeling, but she does every right to protect her daughter by any means since its her duty to protect her loved ones. A good deed doesn't go unpunished. It all depends on the situation she cares for her daughter which was good on her part.

Thompson D 8B

3/7/2025 08:41:39 am

I completely agree. While invading someone’s privacy is generally wrong, Candace’s mom had a responsibility to protect her daughter. Her instincts were right, and even though her method was questionable, her intentions were good. In this case, the end justified the means she saved Candace from more pain and helped her see the truth.

Johnson C 8B

3/7/2025 08:43:26 am

her intentions were good. In this case, the end justified the means she saved Candace from more pain and helped her see the truth.

Lopez M 1A

3/7/2025 11:07:19 am

As a mother she will always have an instinct to protect her daughter no matter what. It does ultimately depend on the situation but in this one its a clear violation of privacy with an intention of saving her daughter from a possible toxic relationship.

Smith R 8B

3/7/2025 02:31:11 pm

I agree, my mom and I have argued over many things during my lifetime, but she has always said when it is my turn to be a mother I will understand. Our mothers only ever want the best for us even when we don't want to believe that is what they're trying to do.

Kendell Hurrington 4A

3/6/2025 11:11:20 am

The mothers actions were 100% made with valid reasoning a weather they yielded the results they did would have made no real difference in weather or not she was in the right. This boyfriend is clearly not the best influence on the daughter and the daughter clearly doesn't know how to handle her life and a relationship. the mother telling her daughter about the cheating is the only right option as allowing her daughter to go on any longer would simply lead to a harsher heart break.

Gonzalez D. 1A

3/7/2025 09:00:21 am

I agree, candace's mom did what was best for her daughter and she really needed Raul out her life since he was doing no good for her.

Frank Jimenez 5B

3/7/2025 10:59:26 am

Agree, both did not make the best of a situation and they both have their own responsibility for what happend. The mom had a justifiable reason to check his phone but it was also wrong. Yet it made the best out of the situation.

Luster J 3A

3/6/2025 01:36:05 pm

The mom was not wrong for saving her daughter. There was clear signs that her daughter Candace life was at risk. As a mother and as someone who has good sense she couldn't sit back and watch as someone with so much potential waste it. It was only right to do something that would be hard to deal with now and save a life.

Lopez M 1A

3/7/2025 11:04:41 am

Sometimes people do bad things with good intentions and Candance's mom is a perfect example of that but if I was in her position I most likely would have done the same. What if the relationship had ended up being really toxic and something terrible happened to Candance, her mom would've been devastated.

Rodriguez R. 4A

3/7/2025 12:49:40 pm

I agree, the mother clearly saw the signs in their relationship and had to do something to save her daughter.

Jahlil Hawkins 4a

3/6/2025 03:12:09 pm

The mother's actions, while well-intentioned, were a violation of privacy. Privacy is a fundamental right, and going through someone's personal belongings without their consent is generally considered unethical. However, the mother's actions were driven by a desire to protect her daughter from emotional pain and potential harm. In this case, the mother's actions did prevent Candace from experiencing extended hurt, pain, and embarrassment. However, it is important to consider that there might have been other ways to address the situation without invading privacy. The mother could have encouraged Candace to communicate with Raul and seek the truth through dialogue. The ethical dilemma here is whether the ends justify the means. While the mother's actions were morally questionable, they did serve to protect her daughter from further harm.

Echeverria D 6B

3/7/2025 11:41:33 am

I also think The ethical dilemma is whether the ends justify the means, as the mother's actions did ultimately protect her daughter.

Salazar J 1A

3/7/2025 11:24:15 pm

They definetely coould have handled the situation differently without Candance mom looking through his phone. Candance should have realize that she was failing herself and the relationship was causing her to not succeed.

Thompson D 8B

3/7/2025 08:40:19 am

Candace’s mom had a duty to look out for her daughter’s well being, especially since she saw clear signs that Candace was being negatively affected by her relationship with Raul.

Rodriguez Y. A1

3/7/2025 12:35:25 pm

In addition to this comment I do understand Candance mom was trying to protect her but I also agree partly that Candace should be prioritizing her future first, the future that can actually be secure, I find her actions irresponsible but understandable, she was in love and there's nothing wrong with that but when you experience that for the first time, your emotions are all about that person because you feel as though "maybe he is the one".

Johnson C 8B

3/7/2025 08:43:00 am

Tomas Ruiz 6b

3/7/2025 05:53:05 pm

Alright but listen, I say that it's pretty justified, after all all the mom wanted to do is protect her daughter from a toxic relationship.

Gonzalez S 4A link

3/7/2025 09:13:53 pm

I believe Candace's mom was wrong for going through Raul's phone depending on the specific circumstances of the situation.

Gonzalez D. 1A

3/7/2025 08:58:47 am

Candace’s mom was not wrong for going through Raul’s phone, even though it was an invasion of his privacy. Her actions were driven by concern for her daughter’s well being making them justifiable.

Frank Jimenez 5B

3/7/2025 10:54:45 am

Agree, the wrong had to be done to do the right thing. There is a justifiable response to a filthy person's response in a hidden sight. Like when the police have a reason to suspect a suspicious person.

Nyamichaba,S,6B

3/7/2025 11:42:17 pm

I think it was wrong. Her mom knew exactly what she was doing .from the beginning the mom did not want her daughter in the relationship so it led her to invade someone elses property cause she was trying to find something she knew was going to break them up. The mom had no good intentions she did not care if her daughter loved him or not so she chose a selfish option just so it can go the way she wanted it to be. It saved her daughter in the end but the mom is the only happy one in this situation.

Gomez D 1A

3/7/2025 09:42:53 am

What the mom did was an invasion of privacy because first of all that is not your kid and you don't have any right to be checking their phone yes she might have done it with good intentions to try to save her daughter from the embarrassment and its understandable that she tried to protect her daughter from any type of hurt but there's a limit to things maybe she could have approached things differently

Echeverria D 6B

3/7/2025 11:40:04 am

I belive also that she overstepped her boundaries. Respect for privacy is essential, and she could have addressed her concerns through open communication with Candace instead.

Rodriguez R. 4A

3/7/2025 12:47:05 pm

I agree, the mother should have approached things differently.

Frank Jimenez 5B

3/7/2025 10:52:22 am

Here's what I'ma say, sometimes you have to do the wrong thing to do the right thing. The mom had to do the wrong thing to do the right thing. She had a reasonable response to the situation and what Raul did is horrible.

Lopez M 1A

3/7/2025 11:01:27 am

What Candace's mom did was a breach of privacy which in any situation is wrong whether or not she had good intentions. I understand that she just wanted to protect Candance from Raul but there are better ways to go about this situation rather than her going through Raul's phone. For example, she could've had a one on one conversation with her daughter and expressed how she feels and maybe convinced her to leave him.

Echeverria D 6B

3/7/2025 11:38:07 am

Candace's mom violated Raul's privacy by going through his phone without permission, which is inherently wrong. While her intentions might have been to protect her daughter, this invasive action crossed boundaries and damaged trust. It's crucial for Candace to learn to handle her relationships and make decisions on her own without having her privacy compromised by her mother.

Rodriguez Y. A1

3/7/2025 12:31:51 pm

Although I agree that Candace mom violated her privacy, however, I do feel that Candace mom just helped her and Candance just experienced a new way to perceive relationships and possible learned a lesson, not all of us are bestowed with emotional knowledge, we got to experience something in order for us to understand. Maybe the trust was broken but Candance future was possible saved.

Emmanuel A 1A

3/7/2025 08:25:26 pm

I disagree, although I understand where your coming from, Paul was still acting a bit suspicious, and wasn't clarifying with mother enough to do clear that up.

Rodriguez Y. A1

3/7/2025 12:24:05 pm

Candance mom was only looking out for her daughter, I can see why she was concerned for her daughter, her daughter was loosing so much when she had a lot, its not right for Candance mom to go through her boyfriends phone but she probably suspected something was up that's why she was looking over here. Hurt, pain, sadness will always be part of this world but the faster we deal with those emotions the faster we can over come them and continue life as we were.

Rodriguez R. 4A

3/7/2025 12:45:03 pm

Raul was ruining Candace's life already while dating, the mother saw the signs and knew he was doing something bad behind her back. Even though she did invade his privacy by looking through his phone, she had to do what a mother should do for the safety and better of her daughter. But there were also other ways of finding this out and what the mother should have done was ask Candace to pay close attention to Raul and see the signs there is of cheating.

Emmanuel A 1A

3/7/2025 08:23:53 pm

I agree with you, The mother is responsible for the child's safety and was in the right to invade his privacy.

Carmouche K 1A

3/7/2025 10:15:29 pm

This isn’t a “should do” situation but she did definitely do the right thing. She should have given her daughter a little more time to find this out herself.

Malvaez M. 1A

3/7/2025 01:27:34 pm

Looking through someones phone is an invasion of privacy, but I believe Candice's mom was doing it for good intent. Candinces mother was only looking out for Candice, like any mother would do do for their child. Candice was already going downhill when she met her boyfriend. Although Candice was really upset when she found out, feelings are only temporary unlike her future, since she only has one chance.

Cavazos N 6B

3/7/2025 11:43:37 pm

I agree Candice's mom helped Candice before anything got any worse.

Smith R 8B

3/7/2025 02:29:43 pm

While Candace's mom invaded Raul's privacy, as a mother she was only trying to protect her daughter. She was giving up her future for someone who the entire time was being unfaithful, after her parents warned her she did not listen. I think her mom believed that finding something wrong about him would get Candace to listen to them and become focused on her studies again so I do not think her mother was wrong in this situation.

Alvarez J 8B

3/7/2025 09:17:34 pm

I agree she was just trying to guide Candace back into the right path even if she wasn't listening to her mom.

Victorino H 8B

3/7/2025 02:35:44 pm

Candice's mom didn't do anything wrong as she was only looking out for her child, and saving her from potentially ruining her future for what could've been a very toxic relationship.

Ruiz M 8B

3/7/2025 02:51:26 pm

While Candance's mom was in the wrong for invading Raul's privacy, she was looking out for Candance, protecting her from an unfortunate future. She was doing the right thing as a mother, guiding and protecting Candance as she's approaching a new stage in her life.

Flores A 4A

3/7/2025 03:58:32 pm

the mom did the right thing, there were signs that Raul that has bad news for the daughter and she saved her daughter from someone that was demanding to much of her time and ended up being a cheater in the end, saved a the daughter from a liar and manipulator

Curlee A, 4A

3/7/2025 06:42:59 pm

Exactly! If anything, Candice will probably thank her mom later down the road for telling her that. Imagine if she kept living through this downward spiral, god knows wherever she would end up.

Aiyanyo E 3A

3/7/2025 11:18:54 pm

I agree that the mom was just trying to protect her daughter from bad influence. This will actually be beneficial for Candice since she can now focus on things that actually matter. Instead of being out all the time with a cheating boyfriend.

Tomas Ruiz 6B

3/7/2025 05:39:10 pm

Candace's mom is not in the wrong, even though she did invade Raul's privacy by looking into his phone, she still did the right thing by telling her daughter about what Raul was doing behind her back. Saving her daughter from a bad relationship.

Guzmán X 6B

3/7/2025 07:59:35 pm

I agree—the mother's actions, although invasive, ultimately protected Candace from further harm. By revealing Raul’s behavior, Candace could reassess her relationship and make better decisions. Sometimes, tough choices are necessary to safeguard a loved one’s future.

Curlee A, 4A

3/7/2025 06:40:57 pm

Protecting your child is never wrong. She saw he daughter was hanging out with someone who was a terrible influence, and she did something about it. Invasion of privacy is irrelevant because Candice obviously is not capable of understanding her own situation.

Mijangos A, 4A

3/7/2025 07:46:42 pm

Yes I agree, however, for her to go through the phone of a random boy she might not know much is somewhat a bit weird, she was still in the right after finding out the true intentions of Raul

Presas A 6B

3/7/2025 07:02:00 pm

I would say Candace's mother was not entirely in the wrong for going through Raul's phone even though it was an invasion of privacy, but as as parent her primary responsibility is to protect her daughter even when especially she sees clear signs that her daughter is losing herself in an unhealthy relationship. But Candace boyfriend Raul with his controlling behavior had already let to her neglecting her goal and even her parents had every reason to be concerned. While checking his phone or someones else's without permission is out of boundary or privacy, but I would say in these case it's revealed crucial information that helped her daughter escape from any further emotional harm.If Candace mother hadn't discovered the truth her own daughter might have continued this path way of sacrificing her future relationship that was not only toxic but also built on lies

Guzmán X 6B

3/7/2025 08:00:58 pm

While it was an invasion of privacy, Candace's mother acted to protect her daughter. Raul's controlling behavior was already causing harm, and checking his phone revealed vital information that prevented further emotional damage.

Carmouche K 1A

3/7/2025 10:13:17 pm

Yes, it was a complete violation of privacy, especially since she hardly even knows Raul, but yes, she did the right thing by telling her daughter and she did have the right morals

Palacios R 1A

3/7/2025 11:58:14 pm

Trust and respect for personal boundaries are important in any relationship, and violating them can have serious consequences

Mijangos A, 4B

3/7/2025 07:45:01 pm

Although her mom breached his privacy, let alone a stranger to her is highly disrespectful. However, she was able to give Candance a reason to leave Raul and restart from the beginning to before her life started to change for the worst. Although she likes Raul, he has changed her for the worst and could possibly take more advantage of her if she wants to stay, so i believe even though her mom made a bad decision, she was able to save her daughter.

Alvarez J 8B

3/7/2025 09:11:45 pm

Yes even if Cadence mom did something wrong it will end up benefiting Cadence to have the courage to leave and finally be her old self.

Castillo V, 6B

3/7/2025 10:52:04 pm

Yes Candice’s mom may have did something wrong but at the end of the day she opened her daughter’s eyes into leaving her boyfriend and be her old self again.

Aiyanyo E 3A

3/7/2025 11:15:52 pm

I agree that even though it was wrong to look through Raul's phone, it's actually a good thing that it showed that Raul is not a good person. Now the mom has a reason to tell her daughter to stop dating Raul. The ending of the relationship could cause Candice's grades to improve.

Salazar J 1A

3/7/2025 11:20:32 pm

Her mom definetely helped her from leaving a relationship where she was clearly losing herself. It could have possibly gotten worse for her if she didnt tell Candance.

Cavazos N 6B

3/7/2025 11:41:32 pm

If the mom did not intervene then the relationship could have gotten a lot worse.

Guzmán X 6B

3/7/2025 07:58:26 pm

Candace’s mother's decision to review Raul's phone was a difficult yet ultimately protective measure. While it did encroach on personal privacy, her actions were motivated by genuine concern for Candace's emotional and academic well-being. By uncovering Raul's unfaithfulness, she provided crucial information that allowed Candace to make a more informed decision about her future. In situations where a young person's life trajectory is at risk, such interventions can be seen as necessary, despite the ethical complexities involved. Overall, her actions, though controversial, served to safeguard her daughter's long-term interests and personal growth.

Emmanuel A 1A

3/7/2025 08:22:11 pm

Candace’s mom acted out of love, trying to protect her daughter from a painful heartbreak that could’ve derailed her future. While going through Raul’s phone was definitely an invasion of privacy, it was a mother’s way of stopping something worse from happening but at the same time, Candace was growing up and needed to make her own choices, even if they were tough ones. By stepping in, her mom might’ve taken away a chance for Candace to face the truth on her own. t’s a tough situation. Her mom was trying to protect her, but it also created a complicated dynamic. Love can push us to make hard decisions, but those decisions don’t always come without consequences.

Castillo V, 6B

3/7/2025 10:50:01 pm

I agree Candice’s mom may have prevented Candice relationship to get worse.

Palacios R 1A

3/7/2025 11:57:00 pm

To begin, Raul became obsessive and tried making Candace feel guilty without understanding her planned life. However, when someone wants a long healthy relationship, both have to communicate and respect each other boundaries.

Knowles K 1A

3/7/2025 09:07:08 pm

I think it is 50/50 while on one hand the mother is wrong for going through his phone that is something that you should never do without permission. While on the other hand she is just looking out for her daughter who isn’t listening to her about him.

Alvarez J 8B

3/7/2025 09:10:24 pm

It's no doubt that Cadence mom violated Raul's privacy, but in my opinion i think it was for the best. Cadence was not being herself and pushing away her priorities and stopped making decisions that will benefit her in the future. This discovery maybe opened her eyes and left Raul for good.

Gonzalez S 4A link

3/7/2025 09:17:42 pm

Mom's decision to intervene was made out of concern for her daughter's well being, and she likely felt that revealing the truth was necessary. Ultimately, it is important to consider all the factors of the situation including Raul's intentions.

Carmouche K 1A

3/7/2025 10:10:50 pm

Candice’s mom was wrong for going through someone’s phone, violating their privacy while they aren’t able to stop you from doing so at that, but she is right for letting her daughter know what happened and what he is doing behind Candice’s back. Candice should have realized that she wasn’t ready for a relationship when he started demanding time from her and taking her off of her path.

Sinkfield, E 1A

3/7/2025 11:13:52 pm

Indeed, Candice should have her own critical thinking skills to tell when she isn’t doing what she needs to. Not letting her emotions get the best of her better judgement.

Castillo V, 6B

3/7/2025 10:47:54 pm

I think Candice’s mom crossed the line of invasion of privacy when she decided to go tru Candice’s boyfriend’s phone. Although Candice’s mom did it for her daughter’s safety because she saw the way her boyfriend was changing her and pushing her away from her goals.

Sinkfield, E 1A

3/7/2025 11:12:17 pm

Absolutely, it’s one thing to go through your own child’s phone, but someone who isn’t related is out of pocket. Even going through your child’s phone may be an invasion of privacy, but technically it’s “your property”. While the other child’s is property of someone else.

Aiyanyo E 3A

3/7/2025 11:08:28 pm

Even though the mom going through Raul's phone is invasion of privacy, she did it to good intention. She just wants to protect her daughter since she has been too focused on Raul and not her studies. In fact, if I were the mom, I would go ahead Candice about it.

Dilworth Z 6B

3/7/2025 11:21:14 pm

I agree with you. While going through Raul’s phone was an invasion of privacy, the mom’s intentions were to protect Candace from further harm. She saw how the relationship was negatively affecting Candace’s priorities and took action to prevent things from getting worse. As a parent, her concern for her daughter’s well-being outweighed the issue of privacy. If she hadn’t intervened, Candace might have continued down a destructive path. In the end, even though it was a tough decision, it ultimately helped Candace see the truth.

Nyamichaba,S,6B

3/7/2025 11:34:46 pm

Honestly If I was her mom I'd do the same thing too especially if had a gut feeling about him backstabbing my daughter. At the same time i'm thinking to myself if I put myself in his shoes I would be furious if someone went through my phone and proceeded to out me out I'd feel so betrayed.

Sinkfield, E 1A

3/7/2025 11:10:11 pm

Candice's mother, though having pure intentions, shouldn’t have went through Raul’s phone. Having a child and wanting to protect them is normal, but at some point they need to make their own decisions, even if that causes them to be hurt. They also might’ve been a better way Candice’s mom could’ve proved that Raul wasn’t good for Candice.

Salazar J 1A

3/7/2025 11:18:33 pm

What Candances mom did was definetly considered an invasion of privacy even if she had good intentions. Although it is an invasion of prvacy she definetely saved her daughter from what could have been a toxic relationship.She clearly wants to protect her daughter and wants what is best for her.

Dilworth Z 6B

3/7/2025 11:20:11 pm

I agree with you. Candace’s mom did invade Raul’s privacy, which is generally wrong, but her intentions were to protect her daughter. In this case, her actions prevented Candace from staying in a toxic and manipulative relationship that was already negatively affecting her life. While privacy should be respected, sometimes a parent’s responsibility to safeguard their child’s well-being takes priority, especially when clear warning signs are present. In the end, her decision, though questionable, likely saved Candace from even more emot

Dilworth Z 6B

3/7/2025 11:19:21 pm

going through someone’s personal phone without permission is a violation of privacy. However, in this situation, Candace’s mom acted out of concern for her daughter’s well-being. She had already noticed Candace’s declining academic performance, emotional withdrawal, and increasing dependence on Raul, which were all warning signs of an unhealthy relationship. By checking Raul’s phone, she confirmed her suspicions that he was unfaithful and manipulating Candace, allowing her to intervene before Candace sacrificed even more of her future.

Nyamichaba,

3/7/2025 11:27:07 pm

The mom had no right to go through the boyfriends phone it was not her property or her right to go through his things. Even though she did find valuable information that could really help her daughter it still wasn't her place to do that.I'm glad it helps them in the end but its still not a good thing to do something like that it is a lack of maturity and its crossing boundaries.

Cavazos N 6B

3/7/2025 11:43:47 pm

Candice’s mom realised that Raul was a bad influence on Candice and instead of helping and uplifting Candice, Raul was basically dragging her down. What Candice’s mom did was wrong and was an invasion of privacy to Raul, but in the end she ultimately saved Candice from getting out of the relationship before it got any worse.

Palacios R 1A

3/7/2025 11:56:31 pm

It's understandable for her mom to be worried about her daughter if she sees something wrong. But adults inspecting someone else phone without consent is wrong. In this case its important to open communication and trust within families.

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