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Love Ain't Loud

2/16/2026

 
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Teen dating violence awareness organizations note that many teens enter relationships without the communication skills or emotional maturity they need, which can lead to unhealthy or even violent dynamics. Nearly 1 in 10 U.S. teens experiences dating violence, and youth groups often report concerns rising after Valentine’s Day as relationship pressure and break-ups increase and some teens are left dealing with pressure, heartbreak, and sometimes unhealthy or even abusive relationship dynamics.

But love isn’t supposed to hurt, and control isn’t the same as care. Too many teens mistake jealousy for protection and manipulation for love. But real love gives freedom, not fear. It listens, it respects, and it doesn’t keep score. Teen dating violence doesn’t always show up as bruises. Sometimes it’s in the way someone checks your phone, isolates you from friends, or makes you feel guilty for having boundaries.

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Israel Hernandez 7B
2/17/2026 12:14:57 pm

When someone says they love you but starts telling you who you can talk to, what you can wear, or how you should feel, that isn’t love i think that’s control, and control is a form of abuse. See now real love lets you be yourself. It doesn’t make you scared to speak up or worried you’ll make someone mad.

Gracie Ramos
2/19/2026 08:28:52 am

I agree with your statement how if a person tells you they love you, but then starts to tell you what you should and can't do, it's control not love. And because of potential situations like these, it's important for us to be able to differentiate love and control.

vine jaylon 4b
2/23/2026 08:38:44 am

when your partner do something or say somthing dont mean its always controlling they just want they person to do right

Calito V.
2/19/2026 09:06:13 am

I agree love shouldn't make you fear being yourself but the opposite you should free and learn about the person you in love with.

Thorpe Zamyriah 7B
2/19/2026 02:06:52 pm

I agree with this because, don't let anybody ruin your shine and let you be yourself.

Carpenter Z 2A
2/19/2026 06:03:13 pm

I agree with this control is a form of abuse because that is when you cant be yourself. I also agree with your last part saying "real love lets you be yourself" because if your partner changes what you do that makes you, you then you shouldn't not be with them in the first place.

Fraire.Y 1A
2/19/2026 08:16:05 pm

Yes i agree controling is a form of abuse because you cant be yourself you are getting told what to do and how to feel.And also yes i also agree with what you say about "real love lets you be yourself" becsue if you partner loves you thye will not be wanting to change you.

Alfaro K. 1A
2/19/2026 09:00:32 pm

I agree. Love should feel safe, not restrictive. When someone tries to control who you talk to, what you wear, or how you express yourself, that’s about power not partnership.

Valdez K 2A
2/20/2026 09:12:55 am

I agree. If you're in a relationship centered around true love, you won't have to be fearful or careful around that person. Loving someone involves accepting all parts of them and choosing them anyway, not seeing them as a fixer-upper project to mold into whatever ideal standard you have in your head. In that case, just chose someone else.

Joaquin J 2A
2/20/2026 10:12:48 am

I agree because no one should be put in a situation where they feel that there being controlled instead of being free of what they want to do or say.

Hurtado J 7B
2/20/2026 11:40:52 pm

Love is your partner letting you do what you love, letting you be yourself around them and supporting you not someone who will hide your spark.

Gracie Ramos
2/17/2026 03:33:51 pm

If a person who claims to love me starts to control who i talk to, what i wear, or invading privacy, that isn't love. If a person is in this situation they should try to reach out to a person for help that can encourage them to leave their situation.

Calito V.
2/19/2026 09:01:24 am

I agree love shouldn't be where you have no control of your own body, but where both in the relationship learn about one another and build together.

Taylor, M 7B
2/19/2026 01:48:06 pm

I agree, and at first they should try to express their concerns to the person they love.

Thorpe Zamyriah 7B
2/19/2026 02:03:17 pm

I agree with this because people like that in relationships should get be getting help because that's really toxic honestly

Garcia. K 1A
2/20/2026 08:46:42 am

I agree, relationships shouldn't invade your privacy or make you feel controlled.

Newbill Tylisa 1A
2/20/2026 08:53:40 am

I absolutely agree . I do think its harder to just leave a person alone if you're actually in love with them though . Getting others involved to help you is a great way , but when enduring this type of abuse normally a person would just keep going back . Because they mistake manipulation for love.

Calito V. 5B
2/19/2026 08:39:53 am

If you're telling a loved one, who to talk to, how they should dress, or invading their privacy, that isn't love that's controlling someone as they're a toy. Being in this situation can be hard to go out but what I would recommend is to leave, go live somewhere else with someone you trust, and contact the police about your abusive relationship.

Gracie Ramos
2/19/2026 10:06:05 am

I agree that a situation like this can be difficult for someone to get out of. They might feel stuck and may not have the resources to get help.I agree if a person is in this situation they should contact the police and a person they trust.

Tylen Green 3A
2/19/2026 01:44:16 pm

I disagree when someone says they love you but starts telling you who you can talk to, what you can wear, or how you should feel,

Taylor, M 7B
2/19/2026 01:51:46 pm

Or communicate before it get's too far, the person you're in love with could be unaware of what they're doing. If it is too far gone, then leave.

KordaeW2A
2/19/2026 03:32:26 pm

I agree dont force the issue

Alfaro K. 1A
2/19/2026 09:01:55 pm

I agree. When someone treats their partner like they’re property instead of a person, that’s not love it’s control. It can be incredibly hard to leave, but prioritizing your safety, reaching out to someone you trust, and contacting authorities if you’re in danger are strong and important steps.

Skylar B. 6B
2/20/2026 09:51:35 am

Yes you are not loving someone if you are controlling them if anything you are hurting them more. Leaving can sometimes be easier said than done but it never hurts to try.

Roilen B 2A
2/19/2026 10:56:54 am

I agree because when someone says they love you but then starts deciding who you can talk to, what you can wear, or how you’re allowed to feel, that isn’t love growing stronger — it’s control creeping in. And control dressed up as affection.

Tylen Green 3A
2/19/2026 01:43:26 pm

I agree because when someone says they love you but then starts deciding who you can talk to

Taylor, M 7B
2/19/2026 01:46:10 pm

When the person who says they love you starts controlling who you talk to, what you wear, or how you feel, it's more so abuse in disguise. You shouldn't try to control what your significant other does. If you feel controlled you should discuss it and set boundaries.

Kordae 2A
2/19/2026 03:31:31 pm

I agree because you shouldn't feel use in the situation .

Carpenter 2A
2/19/2026 06:09:23 pm

I agree with this, once you feel controlled you should discuss the situation because once that control carries on with you, you wont be able to find your real self because now all you know is what your partner told you what to do and who you are, and your never going to be yourself and when your not yourself you tend not to be as happy as you would when you are yourself.

Fraire.Y 1A
2/19/2026 08:11:35 pm

Yes you should set boundaries to make sure that there controling dose not go far enough to make things in to a bigger problome other that just controling.

Luna W. 1A
2/20/2026 08:50:36 am

I agree with you, there is not need to over control what your partner does instead talk to them about rules.

Valdez K 2A
2/20/2026 09:10:25 am

I agree. If someone is making you change who you are and what you do then they clearly don't love you. Talking could help, but some people are too far stuck in their heads to respect other's boundaries so it's important to know when to walk away.

Skylar B. 6B
2/20/2026 09:18:40 am

That is true if you really loved someone you would not try to control them or their decisions if anything would be supportive in anything they do.

Thorpe, Zamyriah 7B
2/19/2026 01:49:58 pm

If a person that swears they love me but start controlling what I do and where I go and stuff, I'll start to think that is a controlling tactic because I should be able to do what I want and say what I want. that isn't love.

KordaeW 2A
2/19/2026 03:30:13 pm

You got to know your worth because you just dont let nobody walk over you.

Carpenter Z 2A
2/19/2026 05:59:36 pm

When the person who says they love you starts controlling who you talk to, what you wear, or how you feel can go either way if they love you or not. It all comes down to loyalty and honesty and caring for one another. But you don't have to control your partner and tell them what to do because they are still there own person and if he or she has a problem with it there love for each other is not real.

Fraire.Y 1A
2/19/2026 08:08:41 pm

When a loved one is telling you who you should talk to ,what you can and can not wear and how you can express yourself that is not real love if they were to love you they would not be controling you they would have enough trust in you to not be controling.

Newbill T 1A
2/20/2026 09:00:40 am

The abuser most of the time don't understand that they are the abuser or are abusing. they think that they are just having structure in their relationship. I think the first step is trying to get them to acknowledge that you don't like the way it feels and you aren't feeling love .

Hurtado J 7B
2/20/2026 11:38:44 pm

Love is not being controlled, getting restricted from doing things that you like is not love your partner is being selfish.

Alfaro K. 1A
2/19/2026 08:57:06 pm

When someone says they love you but tries to control who you talk to, what you wear, or how you feel, that is not real love it is control and can be a form of abuse. Real love respects your freedom, and if this is happening, talk to someone you trust and think about getting help to stay safe.

Luna W. 1A
2/20/2026 08:55:03 am

I agree with you, talking with a trusted adult about what is going on is one of the best ways to solve an abusive relationship.

vine jaylon 4b
2/23/2026 08:41:40 am

i agree but sometimes its best not to tell family because some like to throw it in your face

Garcia K. 1A
2/20/2026 08:44:23 am

When someone who says they love you starts controlling who you talk to, what you wear, or how you feel, that isn't love, its abuse disguised as care. Real love is built on trust, respect, and freedom, not jealousy or fear. If someone checks your phone, isolates you from friends, or makes you feel guilty for having boundaries, those are warning signs of unhealthy relationships.

Khloe K 5B
2/23/2026 08:52:38 am

I agree because when someone uses “love” to justify controlling your choices or invading your privacy, that’s not care it’s unhealthy behavior. Pointing out those warning signs helps people recognize when something isn’t right.

Luna W 1A
2/20/2026 08:45:51 am

If the person who starts controlling what I do in life it is most definintaly not love, its abuse. For some people it may or not be hard to get out of but the best thing to do is talk to your partner or get an adult who can help.

Kinds, C 2A
2/20/2026 09:27:18 am

I complete understand, because they should not be controlling you due to the fact that you are your own person and no one else should be telling you how to act or how to be in your life and it is definitely not a sign of love.

Newbill, Tylisa 1A
2/20/2026 08:48:16 am

When someone is controlling you , and doing jealous things at first it may seem cute and funny. But down the line its starts getting old and you will have that weird feeling that its not really love. Its manipulation and its abuse. And a lot of times people ignore it. And not even that they just push it to the side because they're "in love", or what they think is love. its harder to just break up and walk away especially if you truly love them.

Valdez K. 2A
2/20/2026 09:07:36 am

When the person who claims to love you but starts wanting control over every aspect of your life, they don't actually love you. They love the idea of you and simply need someone to fill the void of insecurity and need for control. If you recognize that you are in a situation like this, the best thing to do is to put some distance between you and that person, tell a trusted adult and if it's safe to do so, tell the person up front how you don't appreciate their behavior.

Kinds,C 2A
2/20/2026 09:25:50 am

I agree you shouldn't have to feel scared or out of place for anyone that claims they love you that is not the way to endure in loving situations.

Khloe K 5B
2/23/2026 08:50:14 am

I agree Because when someone’s “love” turns into control, it stops being love, and creating distance while reaching out to someone you trust is a healthy step toward protecting yourself.

Skylar B. 6B
2/20/2026 09:16:22 am

If the person who says they love me starts controlling every aspect of my life, what I can wear, who I can talk to, and how I should feel that is abuse wearing a disguise. You are supposed to feel supported, respected, and most importantly safe in any type of relationship not the opposite. What I would do is distance myself from that relationship or tell someone you trust who could help with your situation.

Armani Cordova 7B
2/20/2026 05:14:01 pm

I agree with this statement ,feeling supported in a way can better support yourself but you cannot rely on the support too much.

Kinds, C 2A
2/20/2026 09:24:41 am

Love should not be a controlling behavior and it definitely should not be abusive. Recognizing the patterns of abuse that someone is giving or receiving should definitely be told to someone that can do something about it because it will eventually take away a person self- confident and ability to say something for themselves, it should be someone safe space to express how they feel at any moment.

Armani Cordova 7B
2/20/2026 05:15:44 pm

I agree with this statement recognizing the pattern of abuse before it starts can save yourself mentally and physically in the long run.

Joaquin J 2A
2/20/2026 10:10:54 am

Love should be an emotion that feels good and should be given or taken to someone. It should make you feel comfortable and safe not like your caged up in a cage and released when they want.

Armani Cordova 7B
2/20/2026 05:11:38 pm

When someone says they love you and starts to control you it isn't love its a form of abuse . Love shouldn't feel like you're restricted from freedom or sense of self. Its important to remember that healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and equality not a form of control. In order to leave you have to love them enough to let them go .

Hurtado J 7B
2/20/2026 11:35:16 pm

Healthy relationships make you feel bigger, brighter, and more like yourself not smaller and more restricted. If you have to give up your freedom to keep the "peace," it isn't peace, it's a hostage situation.

Khloe K 5B
2/23/2026 08:46:51 am

When someone uses “love” as a cover to control your choices, your relationships, or your emotions, that isn’t love it’s a form of abuse dressed up as concern. Real love makes you feel safer and more yourself.


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